[Sosfbay-discuss] Applying NVC to the situtation (Re: Ideas from Far-Flung Places

[Duende]

On Mar 9, 2007, at 8:34 AM, JamBoi wrote:

> Roy, sure I've got a lot of nerve.  No one has ever accused me of
> lacking nerve. ;-)  Here hermano, I've had an idea.  You and I have
> thoroughly expressed ourselves in the traditional way thus far and as
> we can see it has gotten us not very far.  You and I are both  
> beginners
> in the art of NonViolent Communication, so what do you say we try to
> apply that and see how much better that works?  I'm thinking it could
> not only be a good healing thing to bring you and I back together but
> could also demonstrate the amazing power of NVC.  What do ya say?
> Shall we give it a go?
>
> So I'll start by doing what Ursula Duncan calls a "gift of a guess" to
> try to empathically connect with you...
>
> So Roy, are you Feeling pissed off because your need for consideration
> is unmet in this situation?

No. But I am annoyed and a bit saddened that a person left this list  
because he was censured by a member that iin my opinion (and existing  
or lack of existing guidelines)had no right to censur them. The sad  
part is that other than myself and Tian no one else has stated their  
being uncomfortable with the whole transaction. I'm also a bit  
ammused that a person who was throwing around explicatives keeps  
alluding to NVC as a means to heal a situation when it seems to suit  
them.

I have to be honest though Drew. Since our meeting at DeAnza with  
Darci Cohen I haven't really been comfortable with you. Darci was  
taking her time to try to help us navigate the corridors of what's  
public domain images and the like and you were baraging her with your  
Green propoganda though it was quite obvious she didn't want to hear  
it. Quite truthfully I felt embarrassed by your actions since I'm the  
one who introduced you. There is a time for tabling and this wasn't  
the time. Then when I got back on the list after a prolonged absence  
almost every other post is Jamboi. Jamboi here..Jamboi there and I'm  
wondering who in the f*ck is this guy? Between the aforementioned and  
the lack of follow through concerning my recording the political  
event at the Adobe House you were not on my warm and fuzzy list for  
sure though I was admiring your energy from a place of caution. Then  
seeing Mark leave the list due to your attempted censure (and in his  
case not attempted but a faite de complie at this point) it totally  
got my goat.

Now.. that being said, it's irrelevant that it was you who had  
censored Mark, I would have taken this stand if it were anyone else.  
Though maybe not with the same amount of mistrust.

And.. I will not accept having the issue at hand, the censor of  
another Green Party member, derailed by slight of hand nor what  
appears to me to be an NVC shell game.


Peace

Duende

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"If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise  
they'll kill you."

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